Tame

michael has been into "the lifestyle" for 30 years! I guess that makes him an expert of sorts.

I expressed my concern that I am not experienced and don't really know what to do. He was sweet to say that I need to do what comes naturally. That I don't have to be bitchy or demanding or dominant all the time.

But that I shouldn't hesitate to make demands if it occurs to me. Being dominant can also mean being loving and kind.

I had looked around at some bdsm personal websites and asked him about these people. He said most of them aren't even real - they wear the right outfits and say a few key words, but as you get to know them better, they're just posers. Hmmm.

I have to say that was reassuring. I can say that I'm a sincere Dom in the making.

Happy Birthday, michael! You are a patient man!